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To determine which skills you need to develop most, you should:

Review the self-assessment you did in Module 1 to see which skills stood out as strengths you want to build on and which represented areas for improvement.

Decide which of the suggested exercises sound like the most fun and do those.

Start at the top of the list of skills and begin working on each one in order.

Select the skills best demonstrated by the exemplar you most relate to.

Springsteen’s pursuit of self-knowledge through counseling—and his public sharing about his journey—destigmatized counseling and opened doors for people, especially men, who might not otherwise seek…

By finding ways to move ever closer to achieving simultaneous four-way wins—actions that benefit work, home, community, and self, all at once—such as volunteering for the United Way early in his…

When she worked to improve her family’s functioning by carving out private time to work out in the morning and, at the same time, compelling her husband to take some domestic responsibilities, Obama…

When Tom Tierney, at the peak of his powers as CEO, chose to leave in the prime of his career and launch a small non-profit start-up he demonstrated the skill of:

When Greitens took what he gained in different parts of his life (the attitude and skills he had acquired as a boxer, the knowledge and insight gleaned from his time as a humanitarian worker, the…

When Obama stated in an interview, “What I do in my life defines me. A career is one of the many things I do in my life. I am a mother first,” and then followed this up by making public choices in…

Which of these actions will help you to be successful in pursuing what matters; feeling more purposeful, connected, and optimistic; and developing your repertoire of skills?

In the aftermath of 9/11, Springsteen struggled to come to terms with what had occurred. He produced songs to express the grief and hope he found in himself, his family, and his community. Not only…

By growing the Women of Silicon Valley gatherings into a community of friends, tech executives, venture capitalists, other mothers, book club friends, former colleagues, and family members, Sandberg…

When Sandberg recounted an experience about herself and two other students attending a college history course that highlighted the confidence gap between female overachievers and male achievers, she…

By forsaking more comfortable career paths to join the Navy so he could move beyond merely providing relief and to stay true to his belief that protection with force was a necessary complement to…

When Springsteen set limits on the scope of what he deemed acceptable behavior by requiring his band members to sign nondisclosure agreements that included language about guarding his family’s…

Picking a few important stakeholders—people you believe are important to your future—from different areas of your life and asking them to describe you briefly in order to discover how others see you…

Identifying the important roles you play in each area of your life, thinking about the type of person you wish to become in each of those roles, and then identifying the one or two main features of…

Taking action to begin leading the life you want requires: